The reason why it is not there is because CC3+ is a very style-based program, that is, the available tools and how they are set up are done individually for every style. The guides in the Tome use the CC3 Mike Schley overland style for the main tutorials, while your screenshots shows you are using CC3 Standard overland for your map. These are two different styles, the latter being quite a bit older, with different tools available.

These two styles does the sea contours a bit differently, but as Calibre said, you'll find all the drawing tools for a style by clicking the All Drawing Tools :CC2DRAWTOOLS: button. Selected tools often appear in the symbol catalog window for convenience, but it is here you will find all the tools.

You're not holding down the ctrl key are you?

If you hold down the ctrl key when moving the mouse (including using the mouse accessibility keys), it will do scaling exactly as you describe.

If you are using sticky keys, depending on the config and how many times you hit the key, the ctrl key may stay enabled after using that ctrl+q for quick move causing this behaviour.

I did some testing with these settings on, and found that it is not hard accidentally enabling control.

I think you may be misremembering. I was a bit unsure myself because I don't use this functionality too often, so I installed the older versions and tested, and none of the generated maps had links back up to the parent map.

Could you be confusing it with the html export (from the same dialog)? The HTML export do have the controls you talk about (parent, up/down/left/right)

Try changing the style of the arrow heads, Tools -> Set properites -> Arrow Heads. The default settings are often WAY to small....

Or for the prettier arrows, use the WARROWD command.

The character set in map notes only does standard ASCII characters, not the entire Unicode range, so it has certain limits what will work or not.

You can easily test yourself if anything is necessary to remove by creating a new map note in a map, paste in your text, and then open it up in the viewer (the blue window) afterwards.